I stumbled across this letter today and I want to share it with you. It's a letter I wrote almost a year ago to the "other woman." I had been struggling so much with forgiving Gavin for his relationship with her, as well as forgiving her,even more than I had struggled with his addiction to pornography. A friend suggested I write her a letter (but not send it) expressing my pain to her and seeing if that might help. It did! After I wrote this letter, I had Gavin read it out loud. Then we praye...

When my husband first revealed his secret life of porn addiction and an emotional affair with another woman, my initial reaction was to hide. I didn’t want anyone to know. I felt as though there’s a certain stigma related to the wife of a sex addict...

“She must not satisfy him.”

“What’s wrong with her that he has to look at porn?”

“Maybe she’s just boring.”

(In fact, I’ve even had a random commentator on my blog say “Some guys just look at porn because their wif...