Jesus came to pardon our sins, but He also came to heal the brokenhearted so we can walk in freedom.  Freedom from pain, guilt, shame, sin, and condemnation. By His wounds we are healed. May God continue to bless us on the path to complete restoration and healing in Him.  

After All This Time

Posted by Kristina Croft on Tuesday, April 18, 2017
It was a harmless comment.
He didn't mean it the way I took it.
But it began a spiral of emotions that took me to a place of anxiety and fear.
A place I haven't gone in quite some time.
A place that I thought was long forgotten.
Yet there I was, lying in the dark, feeling overwhelmed by thoughts of distrust.
Overwhelmed by worry about my body, my age, my performance.
Worry about his faithfulness.
Why would such a small thing cause me to spiral out of control like that?
Because I was not being diligent. 
We were not being diligent.
We had allowed life, a busy-chaotic-beautiful life, to bog us down and distract us
from being... well... intimate. 
We had allowed our focus to stray from our relationship with each other to our
relationship with our children, our church, our friends. None of which are bad
things in themselves. But when they replace the focus of our relationship with
each other, we open ourselves up to trouble. 
And trouble is what we found that night.
Even after all this time.
Even after all the healing.
Even after the grace and the forgiveness.
Our lack of intimacy had actually placed a small bomb in my heart, waiting for the
right moment to explode. 
Not having real conversations. TICK!
Not sharing God's Word together. TOCK!
Not touching each other. TICK!
Not dating each other. TOCK!
Not praying together. TICK!
Not kissing each other. TOCK!
Not having sex. BOOM!

A recipe for disaster. And we didn't even see it coming. We didn't even realize what we
were doing. We have five amazing children. I homeschool. He pastors a church. We have 
a busy schedule. Sometimes we don't get to say two words without an interuption. And
by the time the kids are all asleep, we want to crash. Life. But guess what? That's not
an excuse. It's not an excuse to stop talking. It's not an excuse to stop encouraging 
each other in the Word and in prayer. It's not an excuse to stop being intimate.
Every marriage needs to take special time and care to keep intimacy a priority - 
emotionally, spiritually, and physically. But a marriage that has been through sexual
betrayal and found healing... it requires that much more diligence. Because even after
all this time, the Enemy knows the best way to get under my skin. The quickest way
to take me out of the game. Thankfully, my husband and I were able to recognize the
spiral and were able to end it quickly. We were able to talk about how far we'd let
ourselves get away from our diligence and we made a plan to get back on track.

The plan?
Have real conversations.
Share God's Word together.
Touch each other.
Date each other.
Pray together.
Kiss each other.
Have sex.
Sounds simple enough but it will require effort. It won't just happen. We must be
diligent once again. I am so thankful that God allowed us to have this brief moment
of heartache to wake us up to the laziness that had grown between us. And now
we can get back to work on keeping our marriage a focus and a top priority.

By His Wounds We are Healed,

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