I am studying through the book of Jeremiah and I have to say that I was taken aback by God's desire to be reconciled with the Israelites! Jeremiah compares the Israelites to God's bride and then describes the ways that Israel has been unfaithful to God. He calls them “polluted,” he says they've “played the whore,” that they've been “ravished” in every way, he calls them a “vile whoredom,” that they “await lovers” in the “wilderness,” that they are unashamed of their behavior, and that they've done “every evil” they could. So WHY would God desire to be reconciled with them after they had done such deplorable things?! Because of His steadfast love.
I thought of my own life. How I have played the whore many times. I
have been unfaithful to God throughout my Christian walk and have
allowed my heart to become a polluted wasteland. Yet God, in His
steadfast love for me, and desiring reconciliation with me, continues
to pour out His lovely grace over my life. It's crazy nonsense
because I don't deserve anything from God, but He is full of mercy
and love. He calls me to repentance when my heart goes astray
and He reconciles me to Himself when I finally come back to Him. He
is ever faithful when I am unfaithful.
Then I thought of the couples we try to minister to on this website. Women who have been broken-hearted over their husband's unfaithfulness. Men who have allowed pornography and sexual sin to pollute their heart and have taken part in a vile whoredom. Should you desire reconciliation? Even after you discover all the deplorable things your husband has done in secret? Well. Yes. God is a God of reconciliation and we were created in His image. He puts His attributes in us and when Jesus saves us from the depths of depravity, He gives us a new heart. A heart that seeks after Him and that wants to be more like Him. A heart that desires reconciliation and forgiveness. So, ultimately, we should desire reconciliation with an unfaithful husband. No matter what we've done, Christ receives us upon repentance and has forgiven every sin. And likewise, no matter what your husband has done, you should receive him upon his repentance and forgive him.
Now, I am not God. Though I am created in His image and He shares His attributes with me and I was given a new heart... I am NOT God. And it's not easy for me to forgive. And some of you may have experienced similar or far deeper betrayal from your husband as I have and you may be thinking “easy for you to say!” But it's not easy for me. Desiring reconciliation with my husband wasn't easy at first. I hated him. I was so hurt and so angry. But when I could see him walking out his repentance, when I could see that God was changing him, when I fully understood how much Christ has forgiven me, it did become easier. It became the desire of my heart.
It is my hope that you will come to a point where you desire reconciliation with your husband. That he will repent of his sin and your marriage can be restored. If your heart isn't there yet, ask God to change it. He can. He will. There's something quite beautiful about a marriage that's been restored and a spouse that's been forgiven. There's something endearing about a heart that desires to be reconciled.
Walking in Freedom,
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