Jesus came to pardon our sins, but He also came to heal the brokenhearted so we can walk in freedom.  Freedom from pain, guilt, shame, sin, and condemnation. By His wounds we are healed. May God continue to bless us on the path to complete restoration and healing in Him.  

Relapse Revisited

Posted by Kristina Croft on Monday, January 13, 2014

It’s interesting how the same thoughts that plagued me in the beginning are the same fears that I hear over and over from you ladies. There are certain things that, almost universally, women feel when they discover their husband is addicted to pornography. Feelings of inadequacy - I’m not pretty enough, interesting enough, sexy enough, available enough – to keep my husband satisfied. Outbursts of anger – how could he do this to me, to our family!?! Obsessive controlling – watching him like a hawk and being the “porn police” to the point that it drives you both insane. Intense pain – crying and depression, feeling as though your world has stopped. And finally, the indescribable fear that HE WILL DO THIS AGAIN.

Not only does the enemy try to convince us that our husbands cannot overcome, but just about every book we read on sexual sobriety says that relapse is inevitable, if not
expected! This is one of the thoughts that drove me nuts. That I could choose to stay, work through all these extremely painful emotions, learn to trust my husband again, find a measure of healing… only to be plunged back into the pit of despair when he relapses. I WON’T DO THIS AGAIN is what I told my husband back then. Now, as I have become further and further removed from that crisis and I have grown spiritually, I know now that I would stand by his side if he were to fall again. But here’s the kicker: I don’t expect him to fall. I don’t think relapse is inevitable. I still believe that Jesus Christ DOES have the power to break any chain. I still believe that, through Christ, we can be free from any addiction. I still believe we are overcomers. And I believe in my husband. I know that he is pursuing purity EVERYDAY and that as he becomes further and further removed from pornography, the more he is completely saddened by it. The women who are objectified, abused, and desperate. The men who are depraved and blinded to their evil deeds. The families that are broken and destroyed because of it. So I stand by what I said years ago… relapse is not inevitable. It’s possible, for all of us; but not predictable.

Here is a BLOG I wrote a while back that really expounds on relapse and what Scripture tells us about overcoming sin.

Walking in Freedom,


Tags: relapse  inevitalble  jesus  chains  broken  possible  predictable  scripture  pornography  healing  restoration  pain  purity 
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