I saw this video today and I was blown away by it.
At first I thought about showing it to
my daughter and talking to her about the beauty that is within her,
that gentle and quiet spirit that God considers precious. And I will.
But then I thought that I need to show it to you. The women who visit my site because they are broken by the effects of pornography. You. The one who doesn't feel pretty. Who doesn't feel attractive. Who feels like she has to TRY SO HARD to be someone you're not because you think that's the only way your husband will notice you. You think that's the only way you can compete with the “beauty” that your husband has been watching in porn.
I want to share this video with you because my heart sunk a little as I watched it. When I saw Colby before she took off her hair extensions, her fake eye lashes, and her make-up, I felt like she looked like that woman that I can never hope to look like. She looked like that worldly woman that all of us try to compare ourselves to. And then as the video goes on, my eyes filled with tears. As the women in the video stripped away their lipstick and mascara, they were also stripping away all the lies of the enemy. The lies that you have to cover up who you really are, what you really look like, to be acceptable. So that “they” like you. The lies that you have to look a certain way and dress a certain way to be sexy. That you have to bend until you break because only “that” girl is the one that guys will want.
For me, this struck me to the core. As a woman who has always struggled with her weight and occasional acne, finding out that my husband was addicted to pornography felt like a personal attack. I felt like it was my fault. Because I didn't TRY hard enough. I wasn't pretty enough, thin enough, sexy enough. And so not only did I have to deal with the intense pain of betrayal from my husband, I also had to deal with the internal struggle of WHO I AM. It has been a long journey for me. And to be completely honest with you, I still struggle. I don't look like movie stars. Or porn stars. And I need to be ok with that. No... I need to be ok with who God created me to be.
Women come in all shapes and sizes. We're all different, and that is a beautiful thing. So why do we all try to look like that one woman? We should embrace our differences and know that God created us all to be unique. And we should be spending our time aiming for that gentle and quiet spirit instead of aiming for that perfect body. Our goal should be the imperishable beauty that God finds precious, not the sexy vixen that we see in movies.
As I watched this video and all the women, I LOVED their sweet smiles. Not hidden behind make-up and hair, but just who they are. Just the way God created them. And I thought they were absolutely beautiful.
I think you are too.
Walking in Freedom,
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